One of the most powerful things I learned while working with couples in premarital counseling is knowing when to share and when to listen. I’ve gotten so good at it that sometimes I find myself not speaking up at all. For example, yesterday based on a wellness challenge from my co-working space Primary, I took at long walk around my neighborhood. I was quietly walking and documenting the beauty around me. There were 2 woman slowly walking ahead of me. I wanted to pass them by, and there was just enough space between them as they were in the middle of the sidewalk. So like the ninja I am I quickly walked between them
Yes, yes I know what you are going to say. And these 2 woman said it for you. Nice and loud they expressed their disapproval by saying to each other how rude I was for staying quiet. By this point I was a good 15 feet away, but I took the courageous path and stopped and turned around. I apologized for not speaking up and said that I should have. They wished me well and off I went. To be honest, I am not sure why I didn’t say anything. I may have thought I didn’t need to, but I also failed to realize that I might have surprised or frightened them.
Where do you remain quiet? And when do you speak up? As you reflect, feel free to also join me on creating a short list of your gratitudes, victories and desires. Of course, you are welcome to share your thoughts or lists in the comments below. Off we go!
1. Open windows and getting out into the sunshine
2. Courteous neighbors
3. My yoga & meditation practice
4. Coffee and wine
5. My ability to create healthy meals
1. Making some headway on learning SEO for my website
2. Forty-four consecutive days of Spanish lessons on Duolingo
3. Booking another counseling couple this week
4. Finally coloring my hair purple. You can’t really see it, but still!
5. Safely getting to the grocery and liquor store today
1. Full release of belly pain and vertigo
2. More interest in my premarital counseling
3. To write a new blog post, and a chapter for my book this week
4. A safe way to reopen to New York
5. A good eco-friendly (and price conscious) hand lotion. I know, I know I may not be able to find both.