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The journey to the wedding day may be a winding one. I’m happy to share some tips and tricks along the way. I continually offer ways to strengthen your relationship, and provide additional resources & tools. Scroll on down, and click on a post that interests you. The comments are always open, and I would love to know what you think!

Gratitudesday 11.13.18 - Finding Solutions
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Gratitudesday 11.13.18 - Finding Solutions

Life isn't easy. I know, I am not sharing anything we don't already know. But we tend to get beaten down by the challenges and disappointments. What happens if we focus on finding solutions? Even tonight during a counseling session, one of the pair had a shitty day and couldn't get out of the doldrums to consider all of the positivity around them.

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Celebration Thursday 11.8.18 - Details & Shapes
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Celebration Thursday 11.8.18 - Details & Shapes

A few weeks ago, my parents suggested I come out to Long Island so we could look for appliances and bathroom fixtures in preparation for the renovation of my apartment. It's all about the details & shapes. There is a part of me that is jazzed to create my home - and then I think it would be so nice if my mother and my friend Carlos would just take care of it and I would handle the move when it's done!

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Gratituesday 10.23.18 - Waiting for Life to Begin
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Gratituesday 10.23.18 - Waiting for Life to Begin

I have never felt settled. I've always felt like I'm waiting for life to begin. For those musical theater lovers out there, there's a song in the musical, 'Once on this Island' with that title. The central character, Ti Moune prays to the gods so she can have assistance to follow her path.

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Gratituesday 10.2.18 - Take it SLOW
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Gratituesday 10.2.18 - Take it SLOW

I speak to people all the time that are overwhelmed. Even this evening, the couple that I met with was already overwhelmed with the options around wedding planning and their wedding is OVER a YEAR away! So I encouraged them to Take It Slow.

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Gratituesday 9.25.18 - Rainy Day Gratitudes
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Gratituesday 9.25.18 - Rainy Day Gratitudes

Today was a super rainy day, so it would have been very easy to be completely lazy today. I got an early start and was able to get lots of errands done. An early counseling appointment, catching up on emails, and then a trip to the bank to get some documents I need for my home purchase. There was LOTS of coffee.

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Gratituesday 9.18.18 - Dragging and Itchy!
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Gratituesday 9.18.18 - Dragging and Itchy!

I have been very tired lately. I've been putting up quite a front, but I'm just dragging. That may be that I've been working long hours or perhaps it's because my cat wakes me up multiple times throughout the night. My fall allergies have hit me hard, so I am also super itchy. Dragging and itchy. Nice, right?

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Gratituesday 9.11.18 - Never Forget
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Gratituesday 9.11.18 - Never Forget

Today there were a flurry of 9/11 posts on social media. Lots of never forget hashtags. A ton of photos of Lower Manhattan. Recounts of where folks were and how they found out about the planes hitting the twin towers and The Pentagon. What I'd like to "never forget" is the kindness, compassion and care in the days that followed.

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Gratituesday 9.4.18 - Urgency
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Gratituesday 9.4.18 - Urgency

September is the month of urgency. I find it funny that at this time every year people say, "gosh, where has the time gone?" or "how is it september already??" It's like we weren't paying attention or being present in the every day. This time of year is also very much about new beginnings.

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Gratituesday 8.14.18 - Shine a Light
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Gratituesday 8.14.18 - Shine a Light

I lead a meditation yesterday that was about finding the tension in your life and being able to shine a light on it. With awareness and breath, it would be easier to release the tension or negativity. A few of my students mentioned that they were on track for a crazy week with a new project, so through meditation they were able to prioritize and find a bit of stillness.

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Gratituesday 8.7.18 - The Dog Days of Summer
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Gratituesday 8.7.18 - The Dog Days of Summer

Gosh, it's hot. We're in the dog days of summer. And just like the heat caused Atlantans to slow down, I feel like I'm moving through molasses. I get a list of things done, then I want to take a nap! In New York, we move quickly. Heck, I move quickly. But right now my brain is slow and by body isn't far behind.

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Gratituesday 7.31.18 - Ganesha: The Remover of Obstacles
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Gratituesday 7.31.18 - Ganesha: The Remover of Obstacles

Ganesha, the Hindu deity has always resonated with me. I am not sure why. But today when I got my eyebrows threaded I noticed a statue of Ganesha: The Remover of Obstacles as I got up from the chair. From The Chopra Center's website, "Ganesha is honored throughout Indian and in Hindu cultures, at both secular and religious ceremonies. When someone launches a new business or moves into a new home, for example, the elephant-headed god is invoked to bless the venture."

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Desire Wednesday 7.25.18 - National Days of Celebration
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Desire Wednesday 7.25.18 - National Days of Celebration

Yesterday was National Tequila Day, today is National Wine & Cheese Day. Tomorrow is National Coffee Milkshake Day. What's with these National Days of Celebration? In all honest, some of them are completely stupid. But then, what's wrong with celebrating EVERY DAY? I am currently writing a blog post on RITUAL.

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Building Community

Building Community

We live in a growing world that’s growing smaller every day due to the ease of communication through social media. But those connections while miraculous and easy, don’t usually result in true friendships. In building community. In my pre-marital counseling program, we discuss topics that tend to trip couples up in their marriage. Talking through social activities and time spent together in and out of the relationship is on that list.

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Gratituesday 7.17.18 - Stay Active
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Gratituesday 7.17.18 - Stay Active

Lots to do and I'm doing my best to stay productive. Stay active. However the only thing I am really dragging my feet on is my involvement in my community. There is constant talk about the world (and our country) being a scary place. However, I've been stuck in complacency for so long. Truth is I need to be better informed and then I need to take a stand.

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